Love & Money

Love & money feel tangled?

A private, judgment-free space to untangle the patterns and lead with calm confidence — at home and with your money.

Working with Ilana Jankowitz · Money Therapist & Money Coach

Five patterns we untangle together

Every couple — and every woman navigating love and money on her own — gets caught in some version of these five loops. The work is to name them, untangle them, and build a different default.

  1. Self-Worth — when approval feels like safety
  2. Trust — from secrecy to shared language
  3. Boundaries — clear edges that hold
  4. Receiving — let support in, keep agency
  5. Security — confidence today, options tomorrow

Pattern 01

Self-Worth ↔ Net-Worth

When approval feels like safety, it is hard to ask, decide or say no.

  • Spot people-pleasing and self-abandonment loops
  • Build a weekly money rhythm that centres your values
  • Practice decisions without guilt or second-guessing

Pattern 02

Trust that can hold

From secrecy and guesswork to shared language and clarity.

  • Simple transparency scripts for calm money talks
  • Shared roles, rights and responsibilities
  • Less conflict, more collaboration

Pattern 03

Boundaries without blow-ups

Clear edges that hold without breaking the relationship.

  • Scripts for requests, limits and "no"s that land well
  • Structure family asks and gifting without resentment
  • Weekly checkpoint to keep things steady

Pattern 04

Receiving without guilt

Let support in. Keep agency. Drop the shame.

  • Heal "I must earn love" patterns
  • Expand your capacity to ask and receive
  • Align spending with real joy and purpose

Pattern 05

Security you can feel

Confidence today. Options tomorrow — whatever happens.

  • Role clarity and access — your rights in black and white
  • Calm rhythms that reduce fear and reactivity
  • Future-proofing without doom-scrolling

Frequently asked questions

Is this therapy?

No. It is trauma-aware money mindset coaching and skills training — not clinical psychotherapy. If you need clinical support, please work with a regulated therapist; this work pairs well alongside it.

Will you tell me what to invest in?

No. We focus on beliefs, habits, boundaries and confident decisions. Specific investment advice is the work of a licensed financial adviser, not this practice.

How quickly will I notice a change?

Most clients feel lighter by the second session when they stick to the practices. A durable rewire of the deeper patterns typically lands across the full 12-week or 12-month container.

Is this only for couples?

No. The Love & Money work is equally for women navigating money on their own, in a new relationship, after a separation, or carrying the financial weight in their household. The patterns are the same; the application varies.

Educational coaching, not financial, legal or tax advice. Results vary by individual effort and circumstances.

5.0
Based on 61 reviews on Google
Andaleeb Lilley
Andaleeb Lilley
a year ago

Before working with Ilana, I hadn’t really looked at my finances in detail following my divorce. Doing the work and going through the worksheets and exercises helped me discover why I relate to money the way I do. Supported by Ilana, I knew I could change some of my perceptions around money. I took a good look at my financial situation and could see where I was doing well and what I needed to look at and adjust. I really enjoyed discovering and learning about my money archetypes. Ilana also helped me with some business coaching and how I could continue to grow my business. I changed some behaviours around finances too which I have stuck with which I am very happy about! The fear around money and finances has gone and I have more fun with it now too. One of my mantras has always been “I will always have enough money to do all the things I want to do” and this has only been reinforced. Ilana is also great at connecting you with other businesses for collaboration and networking. The weekly calls are an added bonus and a lovely way to connect and set goals for the week. Thank you Ilana!

francesca
francesca
8 months ago

I recently completed the Mindful Money Coaching course. The sessions were delivered with a lot of care and structure, and I felt supported throughout the process. I gained meaningful personal insights especially around family patterns that influence my relationship with money. I appreciated having a reflective space to slow down, look at things from a different angle, and reconnect with ideas I hadn’t thought about in a while. It has given me a lot to think about going forward. How I spend my money and why and the emotions attached to it all. Overall, it offered a gentle reminder of the deeper emotional layers behind financial habits and more, which was helpful for me.

Geleen A
Geleen A
a year ago

Ilana's Money Mindset Breakthrough was an eye-opening journey. I didn’t realize how much my upbringing had shaped my relationship with money until we dove deep into the patterns I’d inherited. Growing up, I was expected to always be the responsible one and I internalized the belief that my worth came from being of service and pushing my own needs aside. It wasn’t until I started looking at those deep-rooted beliefs that I realized how much I was carrying around without even knowing it. One of the biggest breakthroughs for me came when I connected my food patterns to my emotional history. Working with Ilana, I started recognizing that I didn’t need food to “pause” my nervous system anymore. On the business side, I had been undercharging for my services because I didn’t feel safe receiving abundance. But with Ilana’s tools, I gained the confidence to raise my rates and a client not only accepted the increase but gave me more work, helping me hit my income goals for the next few months. The shift in how I view myself, my worth, and money has been profound. I'm starting to receive abundance again and now I’m doing it from a place of alignment, setting boundaries, and giving myself permission to receive. If you're ready to break free from old money stories and step into a life of abundance and self-empowerment, I highly recommmend Ilana’s program as a game changer!!

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Ilana Jankowitz, Money Therapist and Money Coach, Zurich

Meet your practitioner

Ilana Jankowitz

Money Therapist · Certified Money & Mindset Coach (CMC) · NLP Practitioner · Zurich, Switzerland

For over a decade, Ilana has worked with high-achieving women who earn well, achieve consistently, and still don't feel safe with money. She is the founder of the Inside-Out Money Therapy Method — a non-clinical, therapy-informed coaching framework that addresses what spreadsheets cannot reach: the felt experience of money. All sessions are conducted in English, online via Google Meet. Based in Zurich, working with clients globally.

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